On May 29th of this year, the day that my dear Granny passed away, I started getting little signs from her. The first one came that night after she had died. They would come when I was missing her terribly and upset that she was no longer with us. Now some may think me crazy for believing such things but I have no doubt that they were real. I always felt a very special bond with my Granny. I practically grew up in her house and there was rarely a Sunday afternoon that wasn’t spent with her. So I didn’t expect her to just completely be gone out of my life.
As Christmas quickly approaches, I have found myself feeling quite emotional. Christmas Day will not be the same this year. For the first time in my life, there will be no Christmas dinner at my Granny’s house. As I pondered this again yesterday morning before church, I found myself speaking to Granny and telling her how much I missed her and missed the signs that she had be giving me. I hadn’t seen any in a while and was starting to miss them. So I told her how much I love the blue birds that I always see in winter and asked her to send me one, just to let me know that she would still be with us for Christmas. I went about my day and later in the afternoon, I had to run out to my car to grab something and as I opened the car door, something caught my eye. I looked through the window of my car and saw a tiny blue bird sitting on Callie’s rabbit cage. It sat there a moment, bobbing its head back and forth and then it was gone. I ran over toward where it flew away and I couldn’t help but smile. A big smile. Ear to ear. She heard me and she is still with us.
It may seem that heaven and earth span a great divide but they don’t. Love connects us no matter the distance. I truly believe this. God’s love for us allows us to love others in the same way. Love is given to us as a fruit of the Holy Spirit. It is a gift to us from God, so how could the love we feel for our family just end when they pass away? It doesn’t, so neither does the connection. Our loved ones who have gone before us may not be here in the physical form but the love we felt for them and that they felt for us will eternally unite us to them and there is a great comfort in this.
No matter who you are missing this Christmas season, trust in knowing that your bond is still there and that they are with you in those exact moments when your heart is breaking from the pain of loss. They are with you when laugher turns to tears as memories are recalled. And they are with you when the old traditions come to pass and new ones are made.
“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit. And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love.” 1 John 4